Now, he who gives a benefit to himself must needs receive what he gives; therefore, this is not a benefit. A benefit is received at one time, and is returned at another; (but when a man bestows a benefit upon himself, he both receives it and returns it at the same time). In a benefit, too, what we commend and admire is, that a man has for the time being forgotten his own interests, in order that he may do good to another; that he has deprived himself of something, in order to bestow it upon another. Now, he who bestows a benefit upon himself does not do this. The bestowal of a benefit is an act of companionship⁠—it wins some man’s friendship, and lays some man under an obligation; but to bestow it upon oneself is no act of companionship⁠—it wins no man’s friendship, lays no man under an obligation, raises no man’s hopes, or leads him to say, ā€œThis man must be courted; he bestowed a benefit upon that person, perhaps he will bestow one upon me also.ā€ A benefit is a thing which one gives not for one’s own sake, but for the sake of him to whom it is given; but he who bestows a benefit upon himself, does so for his own sake; therefore, it is not a benefit.

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