Now, he who gives a benefit to himself must needs receive what he gives; therefore, this is not a benefit. A benefit is received at one time, and is returned at another; (but when a man bestows a benefit upon himself, he both receives it and returns it at the same time). In a benefit, too, what we commend and admire is, that a man has for the time being forgotten his own interests, in order that he may do good to another; that he has deprived himself of something, in order to bestow it upon another. Now, he who bestows a benefit upon himself does not do this. The bestowal of a benefit is an act of companionshipā āit wins some manās friendship, and lays some man under an obligation; but to bestow it upon oneself is no act of companionshipā āit wins no manās friendship, lays no man under an obligation, raises no manās hopes, or leads him to say, āThis man must be courted; he bestowed a benefit upon that person, perhaps he will bestow one upon me also.ā A benefit is a thing which one gives not for oneās own sake, but for the sake of him to whom it is given; but he who bestows a benefit upon himself, does so for his own sake; therefore, it is not a benefit.
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