âYes,â said the countess when the brightness these young people had brought into the room had vanished; and as if answering a question no one had put but which was always in her mind, âand how much suffering, how much anxiety one has had to go through that we might rejoice in them now! And yet really the anxiety is greater now than the joy. One is always, always anxious! Especially just at this age, so dangerous both for girls and boys.â
âIt all depends on the bringing up,â remarked the visitor.
âYes, youâre quite right,â continued the countess. âTill now I have always, thank God, been my childrenâs friend and had their full confidence,â said she, repeating the mistake of so many parents who imagine that their children have no secrets from them. âI know I shall always be my daughtersâ first confidante, and that if NikĂłlenka, with his impulsive nature, does get into mischief (a boy canât help it), he will all the same never be like those Petersburg young men.â